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Stress Management Therapist, Alicia Czerniak helps others in their search of Emotional Well-being, Happiness and Personal Freedom... CHASING flaWs
 
Very often we take PERFECTIONISM and IDEALISM to be our greatest Virtues. We are even proud to do so. Of course we have the freedom to decide how we think and how we choose to be. However, if we want to feel good about ourselves, find the inner peace and harmony in our surroundings, then we cannot expect to walk the opposite path, nor can we be in rejection mode. We cannot be hostile or excessively exigent toward others, and especially not toward ourselves. ‘PERFECTIONISM & IDEALISM’: How can they be the biggest obstacles toward achieving HAPPINESS? In our pursuit of Perfection, we are unable to accept Mistakes. Such rigidity doesn’t leave much space for Acceptance, Gratitude and Recognition toward others or ourselves. Perfectionism is linked to Guilt; experiencing guilt feelings that we must do better, or that we have not done well enough. The question is, who is imposing this pressure of ‘I must...’ ? Who is so demanding and so judgmental to say that ‘nothing is ever good enough’? Perfectionism is a continuous ‘chasing of flaws’. Too often, we are only able to find fault. We focus on what is lacking, what needs more doing, and tend to be unappreciative of ‘what is already there’. We submerge ourselves in a mode that lacks the RECOGNITION for all that we have already achieved, and for who we are. We ignore our inner beauty, we depreciate our values, our talents, and our abilities. When our target is to achieve Perfection, we may experience a difficult time obtaining rest or accessing inner peace. We will demand more, and continue to question our self-worth. Will we ever be ‘good enough’? Placing ourselves in a position of inferiority, while constantly comparing ourselves to a self-created imagined ‘ideal image’, expresses that we have a lack of self-acceptance. In other worlds, a lack of self-love. ‘SELF LOVE’: How can we experience an Energy of Love if we are constantly rejecting all that is ‘imperfect’; according to our criteria, be it in ourselves or in others? The truth is that if we are obsessed with Perfection, we will never be HAPPY. If we are unable to accept ourselves as we are, what are our chances at happiness? Pain and sorrow are the only things that we end up creating within ourselves, our hearts, and souls when we are discontented with ourselves. Pretty sad, don’t you think? We train ourselves to ‘expose’ our Smile on the outside, but is it equally an ‘inside smile’? Does it truly exude our contentment or how we feel about ourselves? A perfectionist often considers a Smile ‘a must’ as without a Smile, one would not be considered perfect. However, in doing so, one is stifling the natural flow of emotion. We are far too obsessed with performance and appearance, so much so, that we build an external IMAGE of ourselves which may not reflect how we truly feel inside. As we are currently in the era of Aquarius, our inner need for truth is more important than ever. We owe it to ourselves to fulfill this need, as we can no longer bear our own oppression. ‘REALITY & ILLUSION’: If an IDEAL is the idea of something that is perfect; something that one hopes to attain, then ‘is it not to be considered’ the opposite of REAL? If we are ‘in Idealism’, then we are ‘out of Reality’. To be in pursuit of Perfection is to be in pursuit of an ILLUSION -- an unachievable, unattainable Image created by our own imagination. ‘We can never win in any such competition’, as we can never rise to such levels of perfection. It simply does not exist. It is unreal. Its pursuit will exhaust our Energy. It will prevent us from experiencing the JOY of Life -- from living in the Present Time... forever in search of something that is presumably better. The positive side of ‘Perfection’. The motivation for constant improvement, continued creative process, and the acceptance and appreciation of everything that has already been achieved and done with the best intentions. ‘BEHIND PERFECTION’: Behind Perfection are Fears of ‘not being good enough’, Fears of ‘not being Accepted’. Pride is another hidden factor behind the pursuit of Perfection; Egotism and Conceit. PERFECTION, the trap that condemns us to a state of DISSATISFACTION, an intolerance of others and of ourselves. Our image of perfection is the reason for self-rejection, and the lack of acceptance of others. It does not allow us to enjoy life’s offerings. It does not allow us to enjoy the offerings of others. And finally, it does not allow us to enjoy ourselves, our beautiful Being. But as we have the freedom to choose our thinking, our reactions and the way we direct our Emotions, we can also choose to love and appreciate ourselves more, and to better accept others. We have the ability of choosing to Love ourselves unconditionally, specifically without the unattainable condition of Perfection.
 
 
REMEMBER: In the eyes of God ‘you are perfect’. You are his creation. God loves you ‘just the way you are’. You don’t have to be different and you certainly don’t have to be ‘better’. JUST ENJOY BEING YOURSELF.
 
AC “WELL-BEING” Center of Marbella was founded by Alicia Czerniak, a Master of Science specializing in Transpersonal Psychology and Integrated Health. Czerniak has authored several publications on Emotional Health and Metaphysics, as well as the Biochemistry of Emotions. A member of the International Coaching Federation, Czerniak is a Certified Coach Trainer, Certified Health Educator, specializes in Regression Therapy, Certified in Dr. Kousmine’s method, Master of Hypnosis, as well as having worked alongside ‘the father of the life coaching industry’, famed American self-help guru, Anthony Robbins. Visit www.aliciaczerniak.com http://www.aliciaczerniak.comshapeimage_20_link_0
 
 
 
 
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